Yes, but what KIND of attractive?
dear drew,
When coming from a guy, is being "cute" a good or bad thing?
Dear Cute,
I'll give you both scenarios.
SCENARIO A
Attractive, but in that sisterly, asexual capacity that results in a one-way ticket to The Friend Zone. Indefinitely.
SCENARIO B
Attractive, but in that non-threatening, emotionally vulnerable kind of way, resulting in a connection not solely based on shallow, sexual objectification, but instead, a strong emotional bond of respect, appreciation, and love.
This would immediately qualify you as the kind of girl he could bring home.
Either way, a guy who says you're cute most likely has some love for you. The question is what kind? Platonic or romantic?
Wait a second. I just remembered a third, far darker scenario.
SCENARIO C
Sketchy guy at party/club who moseys up and drops a "cute" line on you. Ready for this?
Slightly attractive, or at least enough for a hookup, resulting in a mediocre level of attraction perfectly suited for a one-night stand and a forever-forgotten phone number.
A perishable item, to put it bluntly.
So yeah. Watch out for that guy.
Let me wrap up the "cute" debacle by saying that I've met several young ladies in my time who are frustrated with being cute. The girl next door who everyone knows is built for settling down, not for wild nights of youthful abandon.
And yeah, that might suck for them. They may want to trade "cute" for "beautiful," or even just a taste of that slutty flavor of "hot" for once.
But there's nothing wrong with being a woman of substance. Remember that one man's cute is another man's gorgeous, so don't think about it as good vs. bad.
When I think "cute," I think the type B scenario; a girl so genuine and adorable you can't help but love her. I've dated a four-star, Type-B before. Totally worth it.
Cute girls, in my personal, best case scenario, have an inherent sweetness about them, which is sometimes the most attractive quality of all.
Send all of your questions to askdrewlindo@gmail.com.
When coming from a guy, is being "cute" a good or bad thing?
Dear Cute,
I'll give you both scenarios.
SCENARIO A
Attractive, but in that sisterly, asexual capacity that results in a one-way ticket to The Friend Zone. Indefinitely.
SCENARIO B
Attractive, but in that non-threatening, emotionally vulnerable kind of way, resulting in a connection not solely based on shallow, sexual objectification, but instead, a strong emotional bond of respect, appreciation, and love.
This would immediately qualify you as the kind of girl he could bring home.
Either way, a guy who says you're cute most likely has some love for you. The question is what kind? Platonic or romantic?
Wait a second. I just remembered a third, far darker scenario.
SCENARIO C
Sketchy guy at party/club who moseys up and drops a "cute" line on you. Ready for this?
Slightly attractive, or at least enough for a hookup, resulting in a mediocre level of attraction perfectly suited for a one-night stand and a forever-forgotten phone number.
A perishable item, to put it bluntly.
So yeah. Watch out for that guy.
Let me wrap up the "cute" debacle by saying that I've met several young ladies in my time who are frustrated with being cute. The girl next door who everyone knows is built for settling down, not for wild nights of youthful abandon.
And yeah, that might suck for them. They may want to trade "cute" for "beautiful," or even just a taste of that slutty flavor of "hot" for once.
But there's nothing wrong with being a woman of substance. Remember that one man's cute is another man's gorgeous, so don't think about it as good vs. bad.
When I think "cute," I think the type B scenario; a girl so genuine and adorable you can't help but love her. I've dated a four-star, Type-B before. Totally worth it.
Cute girls, in my personal, best case scenario, have an inherent sweetness about them, which is sometimes the most attractive quality of all.
Send all of your questions to askdrewlindo@gmail.com.
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