The eternal battle between friend & lover...
Dear Drew,
I like one of my good friends. He's single, too! I want to tell him I like him, but I'm so afraid of rejection. I really think he could
be THE ONE, you know? I don't know what to do.
-Uncertain
Dear Uncertain,
Having answered similar questions in the past, I’m going to cut through my prior philosophical ramblings and cut to the chase.
Escaping the Friend Zone isn’t easy. By exposing your feelings to your friend, you do in fact risk infecting your friendship with a level of self-awareness the two of you might not be able to endure. Knowing that you feel the way you do may cause him to lose a sense of comfort and security while he’s around you, worrying if his normal behavior may in some way bother you or hurt your feelings. Can he trust you to be happy for him when he speaks of a new romantic development?
These are the risks we take when we try to cross the line. I’m not that familiar with your situation, but my hope is that the foundation of your friendship is strong enough to be able to move beyond this if your feelings are not returned.
If you truly believe he is the one, then maybe it’s time to confront the quandary instead of hiding it like it’s the coordinates to the rebel base. Trust is a tricky thing, and it wouldn’t be worth a damn if there were no risk.
Good luck. If it doesn’t pan out, it’s not the end of the world. Write me back and let me know how it goes (I’m attempting to compile Friend Zone statistics.)
On another note, I'd like to personally apologize for the lack in posts lately. I've gone through a major move. So, if you ever wrote Drew Lindo with a question that was never answered, send it again and I guarantee it will be answered.
- Drew
Drew Lindo has a new email address. Send all of your questions to askdrewlindo@gmail.com.
Click here to email Drew Lindo!
I like one of my good friends. He's single, too! I want to tell him I like him, but I'm so afraid of rejection. I really think he could
be THE ONE, you know? I don't know what to do.
-Uncertain
Dear Uncertain,
Having answered similar questions in the past, I’m going to cut through my prior philosophical ramblings and cut to the chase.
Escaping the Friend Zone isn’t easy. By exposing your feelings to your friend, you do in fact risk infecting your friendship with a level of self-awareness the two of you might not be able to endure. Knowing that you feel the way you do may cause him to lose a sense of comfort and security while he’s around you, worrying if his normal behavior may in some way bother you or hurt your feelings. Can he trust you to be happy for him when he speaks of a new romantic development?
These are the risks we take when we try to cross the line. I’m not that familiar with your situation, but my hope is that the foundation of your friendship is strong enough to be able to move beyond this if your feelings are not returned.
If you truly believe he is the one, then maybe it’s time to confront the quandary instead of hiding it like it’s the coordinates to the rebel base. Trust is a tricky thing, and it wouldn’t be worth a damn if there were no risk.
Good luck. If it doesn’t pan out, it’s not the end of the world. Write me back and let me know how it goes (I’m attempting to compile Friend Zone statistics.)
On another note, I'd like to personally apologize for the lack in posts lately. I've gone through a major move. So, if you ever wrote Drew Lindo with a question that was never answered, send it again and I guarantee it will be answered.
- Drew
Drew Lindo has a new email address. Send all of your questions to askdrewlindo@gmail.com.
Click here to email Drew Lindo!
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